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The Power of Timing and Letting Things Come to You

Rituals, Mindfulness & Meditationdanielle copperman3 Comments

I've been sitting on this post (along with many, many others that remain in my mind as I haven't had time to transfer them into a proper post yet) for a while now, and it's something that's a big part of the way I currently live my life. Throughout the past year or so, I've been doing a lot of work on myself, researching and experimenting with all kinds of intriguing theories and teachings, and two things that have been particularly inspiring are The Law of Attraction and manifestation. I will go into more detail of both in future posts, but their relevance in this post is that they shone light on such a simple, age-old proverb that I think a lot of us in our fast-paced lives have come to forget.

I'm sure you're familiar with at least one of the following sayings: 'Good things come to those who wait', 'Good things take time', 'All in good time' and 'Time heals all wounds'. These little nuggets of advice I'm sure most of us have received from others in moments of despair, but they are easier to give than to actually apply. However, if you can understand the power of timing and how to have faith in it, you'll find you'll begin to live with much more ease and openness, and far less worry.

"There is never a right time. The right time is now"

Since I can remember, I've always noticed how the more that you really try to achieve something, the less likely it is to happen. Now, I'm not entirely sure of the science behind it, but speaking for myself, this has always, always rung true. I meet people whose energy is so negative or who want, want, want and it is fascinating to see what they attract into their lives, and this is something I've been observing long before I discovered The Law of Attraction. I've met people who have been trying hard to achieve something or impress someone and it has always backfired, and I've met people who are desperate to do things or for things to happen to them, and these things have never come. On the other hand, I've met people who are so chilled and relaxed, who hardly even know what they want or barely think about the future, and they seem to live in abundance - fully and happily. This is an example of someone who is in 'total alignment'.

"When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you"

When you are in alignment, you are in what's known as 'your flow' and you are moving through life in connection with your source - your inner being - your subconscious - and many other deeper layers of your self. But, it's incredibly difficult to get to this point, especially when there are so many distractions and so much stimulation in the modern world, confusing our thoughts and blocking our flow. When we are born, unsurprisingly, we are most in alignment with our true self, but as we grow up and move through life, things get warped and we often lose our way.

"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear"

A simplified way to look at realigning yourself, so to speak, is to come back to your true self, to check in and to really tune in to your needs, your desires, your goals and your purpose. Beneath any kind of facade you may develop in social situations, behind any desires to may have to live up to expectations and beyond anything you do in aid of some kind of external validation lies your true, authentic self which actually doesn't care much for any of those things, and is waiting to exist unconcerned by them and entirely detached from them. When you are in alignment with your subconscious, your magnetic energy is powerful and is able to work to its full potential. 

There are times in life where things you really want may not happen, and this has, of course, happened to me many a time. There are things that you think are right for you and you are convinced that no matter what, you will put all your time and energy into making a particular thing happen, yet it still does not come. But it's important to remember, if something doesn't happen when you want it too, it doesn't mean it never will. For example, with my book, I was approached almost 4 years ago to write it, yet as much as I wanted to, I just couldn't sacrifice my Qnola business to make enough time to focus on it. At the time, I felt frustrated and all I wanted was to write the book, yet, 4 years on, the book has evolved to something I couldn't have even imagined back then. If I had written it then, it wouldn't have been right; it would have been such a different book and it wouldn't be half the book it is today. Whenever things like this happen, I try to see them either as a lesson or as a chance to recalibrate and reassess, accepting that if it's meant to be it will be, but that now is the time for something else.

"Life passes people by when they focus on their grans plans"

To round up, the moral of this post is to stop wanting and chasing and forcing things, but instead to tap into your true self and your honest desires, and find a place within yourself that you have so much trust and faith that you can be open and attract what you want, all in good time. What's meant to be will be if you only stop focussing on and trying to control things like the unknown and the unwanted. When you stop focussing on these factors, you'll create space and energy to pull in what your true self really wants and needs. The Universe has its ways, and most of the time, all that we plan for and all that we think we want gets overridden by something we didn't even know we wanted, and could never have had the imagination to plan for. It's all about allowing and accepting, and letting go and trusting - because controlled thoughts and overcomplicated agendas just end up blocking what is meant to happen from happening.