International Women’s Day is always an exciting one.
The first gathering held in 1911 (!), #IWD stands as a day to remember, appreciate and celebrate the efforts and achievements of women passed, present and to come. It remembers the struggles of individual figureheads and entire movements, celebrates accomplishments and progression and motivates a call to action for continuous dedication to the pursuit of gender equality.
The day unites female communities all over the world and should stand to encourage and inspire women to not only feel empowered to stand up and speak up, but also to support other women around them in doing the same. The energy and activity we create as a whole is far more influential than what we can do alone, after all.
Whilst we can’t all be Emmeline Pankhurt’s, we can start by doing some important work on ourselves, to find our power, uncover our truths, and harness our feminine energy this #IWD. As female rights have certainly come a long way, in modern society with so many things running on masculine energy, it can be hard for us to make ourselves heard, or even to hear ourselves, for that matter. Take some time this #IWD to nourish yourself, to pause and to prepare for the next phase of female fearlessness and fruitfulness. Enjoy the following independent workshop which I have formatted into 4 simple prompts.
Note: you might need a notebook nearby.
1. Self Worth
I am becoming more and more aware of the importance that self-worth plays in our personal achievements. Self-worth is basically how we subconsciously value ourselves, and this is ultimately associated with how deserving we believe ourselves to be. In other words, our self-worth and how we view ourselves sets the tone for the kinds of relationships and experiences we deem ourselves deserving of. What we attract is ultimately a mirror of our own self-worth. Meaning, if we think negatively of ourselves, we will attract experiences of the same negative energy in line with our self-limiting beliefs. Our self-worth is how we communicate to the Universe what we believe we deserve to receive, which means if you feel incapable, unworthy and guilt and shame around what you feel you deserve, you will attract very little of what you truly desire. Whereas, if you raise your self-worth and feel fearlessly deserving, and clear about what it is you deserve and desire, the Universe will respond in ways that match this confident, assertive and determined energy.
Our level of self-worth is often all that stands in our way. So this International Women’s Day, and the day after that, and the day after that, start to change the way you speak to yourself. Change the way you communicate with yourself. Change the way you value yourself. Change the way you feel about yourself. And change the way you believe yourself to be. Change your story, and you will change the kinds of experiences you attract.
Start by getting clear about what you want to attract, and then use the following affirmations to change the way you think, feel and exist. The following affirmations are more generic, but if you have specific goals, work them into the mix too. This exercise is not so much about visualisation or planting seeds and setting intentions. It is about getting used to changing they way you communicate with yourself, and in turn, changing the way you communicate with the Universe. It is about changing the way you think, feel and believe.
I am enough.
I am successful in everything you do.
Nothing about this day needs to be perfect.
I am smart; I am educated. I know all that I need to know, right now.
I am capable.
I am not stuck.
I am exactly where I need to be, right now.
I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am healthy.
I am grateful.
I am abundant.
I am determined.
I am willing.
I am worthy of what I want.
I am capable of what I dream of.
I am in control.
I am working hard.
I deserve whatever I want.
I am open to what I need. I am open to be shown the way. I trust that whatever I need will come to me, exactly when I need it.
I have faith. I trust the process. I believe.
I am ready.
In changing the way you view and communicate to yourself, you will begin to notice a shift in your energy. If you truly believe in the things you are telling yourself, it is guaranteed to lift your mood and raise your self-worth and you’re frequency. This way of living is an empowered one. There is no place for fear, worry, concern or shame. There is no place for feeling unworthy or non-deserving. There is no place for holding back or feeling bad for what it is you want. You can’t help what you desire.
Feeling more empowered will help you to draw in exactly what aligns with your power and energy. It will help you to draw in exactly that which matches your desires and your reasonings, and as long as your self-worth and your goals are really true to your authentic self, the Universe will respond.
3. What do you want?
Getting to the root of what you really want is perhaps one of the hardest things to decipher. With so many expectations from society or, more locally, from friends or family, and with more distractions than ever, it is hard to tune into our innate desires. It is hard to listen to ourselves, and it is hard to really find what it is we actually want. Not just what would be nice. Not just material things. Not just achievements that we believe will make us ‘look good’. But deep down, what we really want, and why.
Asking the ‘why’s behind what it is you think you want is a grounding method to apply to this exercise, as it helps to really establish the feelings, emotions and outcomes associated with what you desire - or what you think you desire. And you’ll be surprised. The ‘why’s will reveal more accurately what it is you want, on a much deeper level, and will help you to align with your authentic self. This will then help you to uncover a real sense of purpose, too. For example, if you want a better job, why do you want a better job? For more money? And why do you want more money? For security? Or do you want a better job because you want to be viewed as being more successful? Why do you want to seem more successful? For external validation? For yourself? To feel more worthy? You may find that the ‘why’s behind your initial desires can go on and on, but go with it until you come to an answer that is more aligned to an emotion, a mood or a feeling. Often, you will get to a way you want to feel, and in fact, if you do the work in Step 1 (self-worth), you will become aligned to these feelings in more empowered ways, and in ways that don’t necessarily require instant action or much to change at all.
Start by using a few of the following questions to dig deep. It is advised to journal during this exercise.
What do I want?
Why do I want that?
What will that change?
How will it make me feel?
What will this improve?
What kind of life do I want to live?
Where do I see myself in 1 year from now? In 5? In 10?
Why do I see myself there?
How do I wish to feel?
What do I want for myself? What do I want for others?
Who do I want to become?
What kind of life do I want to live?
What do I want to achieve?
4. How can you support others?
Whilst steps 1-3 are focussed on self-worth and self-strategising, they are crucial steps in becoming a more empowered version of yourself who can then in turn empower others. You may find you feel more empowered and more determined, and you may learn things about yourself that you can share with others to help them too. Once you’ve done the work on yourself, do the work with others. Use your desires and goals to help others, and use your newfound power and enthusiasm to support them.
shall i do an online course / PDF on this. leave a comment below.