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Well Being New Moon Rituals - For Ecoage

Lifestyle, Natural Living, Rituals, Wellbeingdanielle coppermanComment
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In my last post for Eco-Age, I shared some insights into how the full moon affects us, along with practices to assist in aligning with it and adopting and utilising its power. Each lunar cycle gives us the opportunity to delve quite  deeply into ourselves, and to use the energy of the universe to attract our true, authentic desires.

For ease, I’ll recap briefly here. The moon holds a different energy at different times of the month. The moon’s cycle is around 28 days, and during this timeframe, it goes from new moon to waxing moon to full moon and then waning moon. When the moon is waxing, it is essentially growing, and as it grows, it brings an energy of abundance, meaning this time of the month is an ideal time for you to manifest what you want. When the moon is waning, it is essentially shrinking, and that is why this time of the month is an ideal time for letting go and cleansing; be this physically (like tidying and decluttering) or emotionally (like letting go of negative thought patterns or challenges in career or relationships, etc etc). And that’s why the full moon and the new moon are seen as such transformational times. They are the pivotal moments in the moon's cycle and are therefore seen to be, in some ways, the most powerful. My previous article was dedicated to the full moon, so it’s time to take a look, now, at the new moon. 

Where the full moon is a powerful and energetic time and one often associated with transition and change, the new moon is a more settled time, and one of reflection and turning inwards. This phase is much calmer and brings with it a sense of stillness; its energy being much subtler and gentler than that of the full moon.

What is a new moon?

The new moon is when the moon is practically invisible to the naked eye. Having been on a cycle of shrinking to a thin sliver since the full moon - also known as waning - the new moon essentially disappears from view completely. The new moon is when the moon is directly between the earth and the sun, and the alignment of the Sun, Moon, and Earth leaves the side of the Moon that faces Earth in complete darkness. This is why, to us on Earth, it appears the moon has more or less disappeared. 

The new moon marks the beginning of a new lunar cycle. The energy usually associated with this phase is hope, clarity and anticipation, but not all new moons were created equal. Sometimes around the time of the new moon, you may feel this hope, clarity and anticipation, along with confidence, acceptance and a wave of inspiration for new beginnings. But other times, you might feel more sensitive and experience uncertainty and lack of direction, which is also fine too. Each new moon is a supportive time and allows space for you to understand how you’re feeling and whatever you may be going through. 

Since the new moon is a time at which the moon is not illuminated at all (unlike the full moon when it is fully illuminated), the darkness we experience on the planet is thought to present itself in our personal situations and physical and mental circumstances, too. For this reason, the new moon is thought to be a time of journeying inwards; a very personal time of really getting to know your goals, sowing seeds and setting intentions, to set the tone for, without wanting to sound too intimidating, the rest of your life. The lack of light brings with it a sense of mystery and uncertainty, and can mean we sometimes feel less clear about things; almost, i guess, as if we were feeling in the dark. We may feel we don’t know what we are doing, where we are going or what we even want. And similarly, the motives behind the activities of others may also be unclear or lack in sense. But don’t panic or get too frustrated or overwhelmed during this darkness, or when things seem unclear, and the future unimaginable. Be mindful that everyone is to some extent in the dark with you, just in they’re own unique ways. The good thing is, this darkness is temporary, and you should recognise this as a metaphor for your own personal troubles and challenges. 

How does the new moon affect us?

The new moon marks the first phase of the entire moon cycle, starting from seemingly nothing, growing into the full moon and then shrinking again at the end of the cycle before starting again. In this respect, the new moon is a fantastic and powerful chance for new beginnings. Physically and mentally, it is a time of cleansing and detoxing, and is the chance for us to let go of anything holding us back, and say goodbye to things that no longer serve us. It is a calm time of the month, making it perfect to set out plans, get clear of your goals and spend some time setting intentions, without haste and without any expectation of results or clear destinations in mind. It is a time to sow your seeds and set them free, and then sit back and do all you can to attract them into being by stepping into your power and becoming as magnetic as you can (that means acting, thinking and existing in line with you soul and your authentic goals and desires. Put simply, like attracts like, so act in ways you wish to be rewarded).

In a time of darkness, there are less distractions, and this energy offers us the chance to take stock and focus on what we’ve got and what we want. Whilst it is a nourishing time and one to move through carefully, it doesn’t mean we have to stop or slow down completely. Sure, we should move cautiously, but we should also enjoy the opportunity to be busy, by setting intentions and doing some behind-the-scenes groundwork in preparation for the next phase of the month, and, more specifically, the next full moon (when these kinds of intentions often come into cultivation). Around the new moon is a good time to actively consider what you want to manifest for the rest of the month (and ultimately the rest of the year and the rest of your life, without getting too ahead of yourself), so set your intentions and vow to be focussed and put in the consistent effort. 

The New Moon can sometimes bring a new wave of inspiration, motivating us to be more original, inventive and creative in our thoughts and activities. This period brings with it refreshing, new ideas and solutions to challenges or road blocks that perhaps have been persistent or stagnant for some time. On top of that, instinct is thought to take centre stage during the new moon, meaning, when we’re in our power, we can be (almost) effortlessly on track. The importance of tuning it and becoming aligned, present and fully grounded must be reiterated here, as only when you are in your power can your intuition and instinct be heard enough to guide you. The new moon is a very magnetic time, full of new ideas and opportunities and has the chance to present many spontaneous and unplanned - even unimaginable - experiences, but if you’re not tuned in, you’ll miss them, and this entire phase of the month will either pass you by entirely, or effect you in more negative ways, leaving you feeling stuck.

How to adopt the energy of the new moon and how to handle whatever comes up:

The new moon is an opportune time to initiate new projects and set intentions and goals in the direction of your dreams. Whilst it is a calm time, it should ideally be a period of hard work, too, unlike the Full Moon, which is more a period of fruition and reward. It is a crucial time to get clear about what you want, and so setting intentions is a non-negotiable. Below are a few other tips on working with the energy of the new moon to really get the most out of it, and yourself:

1. Rest and recharge. 

The new moon is a time to rest and recuperate and with the darkness bringing an element of silence and stillness, you too should adopt the same qualities. Meditate, go on long walks, be in nature, or just surrender to doing nothing. Have baths, do face masks, get a massage, go to a gong bath or sound healing workshop. Whatever you do, do it with ease, and make sure its nourishing you and giving your the chance to charge your batteries; god knows you’re going to need all the energy you can get to fuel all these intentions and new beginnings. *Some people find it particularly hard to sleep at the time of the full and new moons (this is known as being lunar sensitive). If you experience this, melatonin drops or supplements, as well as magnesium should help. You could also try calming essential oils on your pillow.

2. Turn inwards and ask questions. 

Take the time to get to know yourself on a deeper level. I find the best way to do this is to write things down and / or brainstorm. Ask yourself some serious questions, and get to the roots of what you’re doing, why you’re doing it, what you want, and why you want it. This internal dialogue is crucial in making sure you know what you want and can clearly set intentions, without distractions. You should also take this time to ask yourself what is no longer serving you and / or what is in your way. The new moon is a time of letting go and cleansing, so take this opportunity whilst setting intentions for things you want, to let go of the things you don’t.

3. Follow your instincts.

Again, by turning inwards, you’ll find yourself more grounded and centred, and more aligned with your truth. By resting and recharging, you’ll be in the best frame of mind and will adopt an optimal frequency, to be able to notice, understand and trust your natural instincts. this will help you in making big decisions, starting new projects and ensuring you are on track with what you really want to be doing and where you really want to be going. 

4. Think positively.

Not only important around the new moon, thinking positively is so underrated. Its easier for us to think negatively, and we need to be more conscious when thinking positively which is why we often lose touch. However, the frequency of your thoughts ultimately attracts experiences of the same frequency, so thinking positively is crucial if you want positive things to happen. Whilst setting intentions, keep a positive mindset, and try to hold at least one positive thought in your mind each day. Not only will it change your mood, it will change the kind of energy (around you and of others) that you attract, and ultimately, your experiences. Setting intentions is like planting a seed. You must consciously nurture it with everything it needs (positivity, hope and trust) and keep the weeds (negative thoughts, people or situations) out of the way. 

5. Eat well.

Similarly to the full moon, I’d advise to eat nourishing and fresh foods as much as possible. Not only do highly processed foods interfere with your body and mind's natural states, the way your digestion and water levels react to the new moon may be more sensitive than usual. Generally, the new moon, whilst the moon is shrinking, means our bodies are in a mild deep-cleaning mode. Some people believe that they feel thinner and feel, whilst satisfied, less full and sluggish around the new moon. It is also thought that the new moon is a suitable time to lose weight without a lot of effort, since sometimes appetites are reduced. Be sure to stay hydrated too, and eat seasonally to really get in sync with nature.

So, a lot of information to digest, I know, but in a nutshell - if things are unclear as the new moon approached, it’s time to let go and trust. Tune in, get to know yourself and listen to your intuition. Set your intentions inline with your truth, and sow your seeds, then do all you can behind the seeds to support them. If nothing else, the new moon should act as a reminder for you to turn inwards, set your sights straight and try to turn any negative thoughts into positive ones. Let go of things that are standing in your way or putting a strain on you, and try to use this time to get excited about the possibility of new beginnings. Know that you can find your power quite easily (once you’ve filtered the distractions and let go of any expectations others might have you confined to), and once you do, you will realise that deep down you have the power and ability to achieve whatever you dream of. 

New Moon Rituals with Myself + Wolfsister

Mindfulness & Meditation, Moon Time, Rituals, Eventsdanielle coppermanComment

Sunday, September 9, 2018
4:00 PM  7:00 PM

At She's Lost Control Store
42 Valentine Road London, England, E9 7AD, United Kingdom

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Your Instagram feed is is glittered with people posting about new moon rituals and setting intentions. 

What's an intention? You might be wondering.

Some of your favourite instagrammers have dropped some hints but you don't know where to begin. You're curious about trying to make your own magic with your own power, but don't want to get it wrong. And no one wants to be the last one to the new moon party! Especially if it means that you can find some inner zen and learn how to ride some of the waves of life. 

You're oh-so-ready for a fresh start and to ensure you're on track and open to attracting new opportunities. You want to let go of old baggage and make space for the new! Some tips to help you stay grounded and in your power when life gets a little crazy would be useful too, right?

Up for dipping your toe into some new moon magic but don't want to get too woo-woo? Join Wolf Sister (author of The Crystal Code) and Danielle Copperman (author of Well Being) for a New Moon workshop where you'll be guided through a series of new moon rituals and practices that will help you align with the moon cycles. 

If you're curious, imagine this: 

You arrive at She's Lost Control; you almost walked past it because it's tucked away from the hustle of Hackney. It's a new moon and you're excited to do something different with your Sunday afternoon. As soon as you walk through the door; you're mesmerised by all of the mystical wares and crystals on the shelves. All of the things that you need to do in the week ahead fade away, in that moment. You don't want to be anywhere else but here.

Wolf Sister and Danielle welcome you and you're shown where to put your belongings. Without hesitation your phone's set to flight-mode and it's buried in your bag. This is your time; you do not want to be disturbed. The room is set in a circle with comfy cushions and blankets; you're already thinking of how you can bring some of these mystical vibes into your home. 

Once you're seated and the rest of the group have arrived, your hostesses introduce themselves and explain how the moon affects us. Maybe you have been picking up on some of the clues from the moon throughout the month? They invite the rest of the group to introduce themselves; it's totally informal and relaxed. There's zero pressure to share too much and you feel a sense of relief once you've had your turn. It actually felt good to speak; nothing like the cringey introductions you've had to do in team trainings at work. 

Wow, your intuition was aligned when it nudged you to book your ticket.

Over the course of the session, Danielle teaches you some simple breathwork and tapping techniques to help clear your energy and help you feel more grounded; you could easily weave this into your daily routine. You notice that your head feels clearer already. 

Wolf Sister explains how to set intentions to align with the new moon and guides you through a crystal healing meditation so that you can clear any energetic blockages that have been holding you back from making some of your dreams come true.

After the meditation, you spend some time journalling about the insights that have been flowing throughout the session. You want to hold onto these feelings for as long as possible. As the words flow through pen to paper, some truth bombs are affirmed and you've got some clear clues about how you can move forward.

Amongst it all there's a delicious Hot Milk Tonic and light snacks made from Danielle's book Well Being; you've promised yourself to try the recipes at home. 

Before the session closes, you're invited to pull an oracle card; you smile to yourself because it's as if the card has just read your mind. 

There's magic in the air. You can feel it. 

By 7pm you can't believe the session's gone so quickly. You'd forgotten that it was possible to feel this relaxed and reinvigorated. You float home and treat yourself to something nice for dinner on the way. It's been a new moon to remember; your creativity is flowing, your worries have dispersed and it's hard to feel anything but blissful. You can't wait to use the tools from the session to return to this state again, and again, and again.

See you there?  

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We Are Women . Moon Cycles

Lifestyle, Natural Living, Wellbeingdanielle copperman2 Comments
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I've talked before about the moon and how it can effect all living beings and influence certain occurrences and experiences. The new moon, the full moon, and all the waxing and waning in between has powerful effects on everyone and everything, but this post is focussed more specifically on women, and how intrinsically connected our personal cycles are to the cycles of the moon. By nature, women are lunar beings and, when all is as it should be, we sync to the cycles of nature. Today is the full moon, and I am currently on day two of my cycle, but the approach to both has been more intense than usual for me and what seems like all of my female friends, which is what inspired me to write this post. As I struggled with the worst PMS and the lowest, most irrational moods, constant bloating and the worst breakouts since high school, being able to bitch about it with friends that I discovered were going through exactly the same made it more empowering and exciting than frustrating.

As I opened up about constantly low energy levels and uncharacteristic mood swings, each of my female friends reported similar things - entire days spent crying, an unshakable sense of impending doom and foreboding fears. It made me think about how I'd be feeling if I hadn't happened to see them and hadn't had the chance to share these things, and that made me wonder why we don't talk more openly about these things in general. Feeling alone at such a physically and mentally draining stage of each month is the last thing any of us need, so, if you too are having the monthly cycle from hell, read on sister, you are not alone. Below you'll find more info on why we work the way we do, and how you can become more accepting and attuned to your body and mind during this stage of each month. I've also included a few of my own monthly rituals for managing and handling your cycle in more natural ways, which I assure you will reduce unnecessary pain, stress and other common side effects. The more we acknowledge these things and share them with others, the more we can lift each other up and embrace our natural cycles with acceptance and, almost, adoration (you'll see!).

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 Syncing

By nature, all living things should be in sync with the cycles of the moon. The same way we adapt to the cycles of the year (ie, seasons), our bodies and minds are also, to some extent, governed by the phases of the moon. As women, it is thought that in a state of homeostasis and natural purity, we menstruate around the new moon and ovulate when the moon is full. However, these days especially, not everyone experiences this, due to ever changing environmental, chemical and dietary factors - many of which are unnatural. The pill, other hormone-altering medication or contraception being one example, and weight, diet, fitness regime and stress being just a few others. When you manage these things more naturally and when you are synced up with the moon, your cycle won't feel like a pain-in-the-vajay, but more an opportunity to let go and go with the flow (literally).

This month seems to have been a particularly intense month for myself and many of female friends and i’d like to add one anecdote in particular which further inspired this post. When I saw one of my oldest friends on Friday I was complaining about my moods and asked how she was feeling. She said she wasn’t feeling it as, currently on the pill, she wasn’t expecting her period for 2 weeks. This morning (Sunday) she texted me saying she’d come on with intense cramps. And that right there is further proof of the power of the moon.

"The new moon is traditionally associated with menstruation and if you find you get your period with the new moon this is known as a White Moon Cycle. The full moon is traditionally associated with ovulation, but some women do get their period on the full moon and this is called a Red Moon Cycle. The White Moon Cycle is the kind that is more commonly experienced. Historically this is down to the impact of light on the Earth and our bodies  – the full moon is the Earth’s most fertile time because of the additional light received by plants when there is bright moonlight as well as sunlight, and this is why it is traditionally associated with the ovulation phase.

Although the White Moon cycle is more common – that’s getting your period on the new moon and ovulating on the full moon – a Red Moon cycle has interesting traditional connotations. Women who experience a Red Moon cycle have historically been thought to be healers, wise women, or medicine women. These women could take care of the other women who were on their period at the time that they themselves were ovulating. It’s also associated with creation in realms other than getting pregnant and having children – when the woman’s focus is on creating art, a business, or a new way of life for herself and others".

How to get more in sync:

+ Download an app to record and track your monthly cycles and notice and understand your personal patterns month by month. This will keep you more aware and more prepared, as well as more understanding of your emotions or energy levels. I use Clue.

+ Refrain from using the contraceptive pill or other methods which unnaturally alter your hormones. I know many people depend of these things for contraception, but it’s much healthier both mentally and physically to just accept more responsibility when it comes to it, and to find a more natural alternative. I use the Clue app, although I know it doesn’t claim accuracy and so I take it upon myself to act responsibly, especially during my fertile window. Many of my friends also use Natural Cycles which is 93% accurate. It includes measuring your temperature daily and inputting your own data into an easy-to-use app, which will then tell you whether you are fertile or not; alerting you whether you should use extra protection to prevent pregnancy or not.

+ Spend more time in nature. In big cities, sometimes it is difficult to even see the moon or find any corner of a natural environment, which is why busy, city people tend to get out of sync than others. 

(Although there are these historical and traditional links, it’s not necessarily important that you get your period on the full moon or the new moon – although it can be pretty exciting when it does happen!).

Stopping

From a young age, we are told to use sanitary products which could in fact be doing more harm than good. Many tampons and pads contain harmful, toxic chemicals and materials, and are thought to have damaging effects inside the body. Tampons are designed to block our natural flow, but whilst our bodies are releasing and detoxing, this isn’t the most ideal or naturally intended idea. 

How to stop it: 

+ Invest in a moon cup / menstrual cup. I could not get used to the idea of them at first, and initially made the change to organic tampons, but as i learnt more about them, the moon cup seemed the most suitable and sensible - not just for my body but also environmentally and economically. Thinx pants also seem fun but I’m yet to get my hands on a pair.

Surrendering
During your cycle, there is a lot going on internally and autonomically, and powering through daily life with low moods and low energy is more or less a disaster waiting to happen. Whether it’s before, during or after your cycle that you feel particularly fragile, sensitive, lethargic etc etc, take time to tune in, explore what’s going on within (hormone or cycle apps truly help not just during your cycle but throughout the rest of the month too) and surrender. Don’t resist what’s going on and don’t force yourself through anything. Go slow.

How to surrender:

+ Condense your schedule and accept that sometimes you just won’t feel up to doing things you usually would, or that you think you should. Once you’ve used a cycle tracker / app for a few months, keeping up to date with your cycle will be easy, and you can then get to know how and when to schedule things in, like time to be active, time to be social and time to do absolutely nothing. Scheduling in naps, slow days and self care rituals is just as important as scheduling in work and fitness.

+ Discover Moody.  Thank me later.

Soothing

How to soothe: 

+ If you’re someone who suffers from painful periods or endures extreme dizziness, fainting, nausea or other side effects, I can honestly say that switching from tampons to a moon cup reduces cramps and tensions. A friend of mine also uses the Livia - a tech toy which reduces pain.

+ And if you’re someone who suffers from severe mood swings, hormone imbalances and low energy, I’d suggest using adaptogens powders and tonic herbs (see a herbalist if you are not familiar with these) to balance hormones and enhance energy and positivity. I love maca, cacao, pine pollen, he shou wu, ashwaganda, mucuna puriens, ginseng, cordyceps and chaga (I also supplement with magnesium, 5htp and vitamin D if i’m feeling particularly low).  

Moon Time 🌕 November Full Moon in Taurus

Moon Time, Wind Down Well, Mindfulness & Meditationdanielle coppermanComment
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The full moon is a powerful time to take stock and reflect on the past and manifest things in the future. The number 11 is considered sacred and representative of divinity, rebirth and higher consciousness and as the 11th month of the year, November is an energetically and vibrationally positive, prosperous time. Starting November with a full moon is the perfect opportunity to recalibrate; to bring to fruition the seeds you've been planting since the last New Moon and to allow them to unfold and realise. It is a harmonious time and one of abundance and openness, As well as a time of preparation, support and protection. As Winter draws in, we begin to tie up loose ends and shut things down, taking it easy as we approach the end of another year. So as well as surrendering to the Moon's transformational energy, it is also important to consider anything that may need releasing, to clear space for things to come. It is important to let go of any stagnant patterns, energy blocks and preventative, self-limiting thoughts. The full moon is as good a time as any to tune in to where you are right now, what you might want to let go of and what you might want to start planning for.