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An Ode to International Women's Day, Plus Free Independent Empowerment Workshop

Lifestyle, Rituals, Wellbeing, Guides & Coursesdanielle copperman2 Comments
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International Women’s Day is always an exciting one.

The first gathering held in 1911 (!), #IWD stands as a day to remember, appreciate and celebrate the efforts and achievements of women passed, present and to come. It remembers the struggles of individual figureheads and entire movements, celebrates accomplishments and progression and motivates a call to action for continuous dedication to the pursuit of gender equality.

The day unites female communities all over the world and should stand to encourage and inspire women to not only feel empowered to stand up and speak up, but also to support other women around them in doing the same. The energy and activity we create as a whole is far more influential than what we can do alone, after all.

Whilst we can’t all be Emmeline Pankhurt’s, we can start by doing some important work on ourselves, to find our power, uncover our truths, and harness our feminine energy this #IWD. As female rights have certainly come a long way, in modern society with so many things running on masculine energy, it can be hard for us to make ourselves heard, or even to hear ourselves, for that matter. Take some time this #IWD to nourish yourself, to pause and to prepare for the next phase of female fearlessness and fruitfulness. Enjoy the following independent workshop which I have formatted into 4 simple prompts.
Note: you might need a notebook nearby.

1. Self Worth

I am becoming more and more aware of the importance that self-worth plays in our personal achievements. Self-worth is basically how we subconsciously value ourselves, and this is ultimately associated with how deserving we believe ourselves to be. In other words, our self-worth and how we view ourselves sets the tone for the kinds of relationships and experiences we deem ourselves deserving of. What we attract is ultimately a mirror of our own self-worth. Meaning, if we think negatively of ourselves, we will attract experiences of the same negative energy in line with our self-limiting beliefs. Our self-worth is how we communicate to the Universe what we believe we deserve to receive, which means if you feel incapable, unworthy and guilt and shame around what you feel you deserve, you will attract very little of what you truly desire. Whereas, if you raise your self-worth and feel fearlessly deserving, and clear about what it is you deserve and desire, the Universe will respond in ways that match this confident, assertive and determined energy.

Our level of self-worth is often all that stands in our way. So this International Women’s Day, and the day after that, and the day after that, start to change the way you speak to yourself. Change the way you communicate with yourself. Change the way you value yourself. Change the way you feel about yourself. And change the way you believe yourself to be. Change your story, and you will change the kinds of experiences you attract.

Start by getting clear about what you want to attract, and then use the following affirmations to change the way you think, feel and exist. The following affirmations are more generic, but if you have specific goals, work them into the mix too. This exercise is not so much about visualisation or planting seeds and setting intentions. It is about getting used to changing they way you communicate with yourself, and in turn, changing the way you communicate with the Universe. It is about changing the way you think, feel and believe.

I am enough.
I am successful in everything you do.
Nothing about this day needs to be perfect.
I am smart; I am educated. I know all that I need to know, right now.
I am capable.
I am not stuck.
I am exactly where I need to be, right now.
I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am healthy.
I am grateful.
I am abundant.
I am determined.
I am willing.
I am worthy of what I want.
I am capable of what I dream of.
I am in control.
I am working hard.
I deserve whatever I want.
I am open to what I need. I am open to be shown the way. I trust that whatever I need will come to me, exactly when I need it.
I have faith. I trust the process. I believe.
I am ready.

2. Empowerment

In changing the way you view and communicate to yourself, you will begin to notice a shift in your energy. If you truly believe in the things you are telling yourself, it is guaranteed to lift your mood and raise your self-worth and you’re frequency. This way of living is an empowered one. There is no place for fear, worry, concern or shame. There is no place for feeling unworthy or non-deserving. There is no place for holding back or feeling bad for what it is you want. You can’t help what you desire.

Feeling more empowered will help you to draw in exactly what aligns with your power and energy. It will help you to draw in exactly that which matches your desires and your reasonings, and as long as your self-worth and your goals are really true to your authentic self, the Universe will respond.

3. What do you want?

Getting to the root of what you really want is perhaps one of the hardest things to decipher. With so many expectations from society or, more locally, from friends or family, and with more distractions than ever, it is hard to tune into our innate desires. It is hard to listen to ourselves, and it is hard to really find what it is we actually want. Not just what would be nice. Not just material things. Not just achievements that we believe will make us ‘look good’. But deep down, what we really want, and why.

Asking the ‘why’s behind what it is you think you want is a grounding method to apply to this exercise, as it helps to really establish the feelings, emotions and outcomes associated with what you desire - or what you think you desire. And you’ll be surprised. The ‘why’s will reveal more accurately what it is you want, on a much deeper level, and will help you to align with your authentic self. This will then help you to uncover a real sense of purpose, too. For example, if you want a better job, why do you want a better job? For more money? And why do you want more money? For security? Or do you want a better job because you want to be viewed as being more successful? Why do you want to seem more successful? For external validation? For yourself? To feel more worthy? You may find that the ‘why’s behind your initial desires can go on and on, but go with it until you come to an answer that is more aligned to an emotion, a mood or a feeling. Often, you will get to a way you want to feel, and in fact, if you do the work in Step 1 (self-worth), you will become aligned to these feelings in more empowered ways, and in ways that don’t necessarily require instant action or much to change at all.

Start by using a few of the following questions to dig deep. It is advised to journal during this exercise.

What do I want?
Why do I want that?
What will that change?
How will it make me feel?
What will this improve?
What kind of life do I want to live?
Where do I see myself in 1 year from now? In 5? In 10?
Why do I see myself there?
How do I wish to feel?
What do I want for myself? What do I want for others?
Why?
Who do I want to become?
What kind of life do I want to live?
What do I want to achieve?
Why?

4. How can you support others?

Whilst steps 1-3 are focussed on self-worth and self-strategising, they are crucial steps in becoming a more empowered version of yourself who can then in turn empower others. You may find you feel more empowered and more determined, and you may learn things about yourself that you can share with others to help them too. Once you’ve done the work on yourself, do the work with others. Use your desires and goals to help others, and use your newfound power and enthusiasm to support them.

shall i do an online course / PDF on this. leave a comment below.

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We Are Women . Moon Cycles

Lifestyle, Natural Living, Wellbeingdanielle copperman2 Comments
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I've talked before about the moon and how it can effect all living beings and influence certain occurrences and experiences. The new moon, the full moon, and all the waxing and waning in between has powerful effects on everyone and everything, but this post is focussed more specifically on women, and how intrinsically connected our personal cycles are to the cycles of the moon. By nature, women are lunar beings and, when all is as it should be, we sync to the cycles of nature. Today is the full moon, and I am currently on day two of my cycle, but the approach to both has been more intense than usual for me and what seems like all of my female friends, which is what inspired me to write this post. As I struggled with the worst PMS and the lowest, most irrational moods, constant bloating and the worst breakouts since high school, being able to bitch about it with friends that I discovered were going through exactly the same made it more empowering and exciting than frustrating.

As I opened up about constantly low energy levels and uncharacteristic mood swings, each of my female friends reported similar things - entire days spent crying, an unshakable sense of impending doom and foreboding fears. It made me think about how I'd be feeling if I hadn't happened to see them and hadn't had the chance to share these things, and that made me wonder why we don't talk more openly about these things in general. Feeling alone at such a physically and mentally draining stage of each month is the last thing any of us need, so, if you too are having the monthly cycle from hell, read on sister, you are not alone. Below you'll find more info on why we work the way we do, and how you can become more accepting and attuned to your body and mind during this stage of each month. I've also included a few of my own monthly rituals for managing and handling your cycle in more natural ways, which I assure you will reduce unnecessary pain, stress and other common side effects. The more we acknowledge these things and share them with others, the more we can lift each other up and embrace our natural cycles with acceptance and, almost, adoration (you'll see!).

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 Syncing

By nature, all living things should be in sync with the cycles of the moon. The same way we adapt to the cycles of the year (ie, seasons), our bodies and minds are also, to some extent, governed by the phases of the moon. As women, it is thought that in a state of homeostasis and natural purity, we menstruate around the new moon and ovulate when the moon is full. However, these days especially, not everyone experiences this, due to ever changing environmental, chemical and dietary factors - many of which are unnatural. The pill, other hormone-altering medication or contraception being one example, and weight, diet, fitness regime and stress being just a few others. When you manage these things more naturally and when you are synced up with the moon, your cycle won't feel like a pain-in-the-vajay, but more an opportunity to let go and go with the flow (literally).

This month seems to have been a particularly intense month for myself and many of female friends and i’d like to add one anecdote in particular which further inspired this post. When I saw one of my oldest friends on Friday I was complaining about my moods and asked how she was feeling. She said she wasn’t feeling it as, currently on the pill, she wasn’t expecting her period for 2 weeks. This morning (Sunday) she texted me saying she’d come on with intense cramps. And that right there is further proof of the power of the moon.

"The new moon is traditionally associated with menstruation and if you find you get your period with the new moon this is known as a White Moon Cycle. The full moon is traditionally associated with ovulation, but some women do get their period on the full moon and this is called a Red Moon Cycle. The White Moon Cycle is the kind that is more commonly experienced. Historically this is down to the impact of light on the Earth and our bodies  – the full moon is the Earth’s most fertile time because of the additional light received by plants when there is bright moonlight as well as sunlight, and this is why it is traditionally associated with the ovulation phase.

Although the White Moon cycle is more common – that’s getting your period on the new moon and ovulating on the full moon – a Red Moon cycle has interesting traditional connotations. Women who experience a Red Moon cycle have historically been thought to be healers, wise women, or medicine women. These women could take care of the other women who were on their period at the time that they themselves were ovulating. It’s also associated with creation in realms other than getting pregnant and having children – when the woman’s focus is on creating art, a business, or a new way of life for herself and others".

How to get more in sync:

+ Download an app to record and track your monthly cycles and notice and understand your personal patterns month by month. This will keep you more aware and more prepared, as well as more understanding of your emotions or energy levels. I use Clue.

+ Refrain from using the contraceptive pill or other methods which unnaturally alter your hormones. I know many people depend of these things for contraception, but it’s much healthier both mentally and physically to just accept more responsibility when it comes to it, and to find a more natural alternative. I use the Clue app, although I know it doesn’t claim accuracy and so I take it upon myself to act responsibly, especially during my fertile window. Many of my friends also use Natural Cycles which is 93% accurate. It includes measuring your temperature daily and inputting your own data into an easy-to-use app, which will then tell you whether you are fertile or not; alerting you whether you should use extra protection to prevent pregnancy or not.

+ Spend more time in nature. In big cities, sometimes it is difficult to even see the moon or find any corner of a natural environment, which is why busy, city people tend to get out of sync than others. 

(Although there are these historical and traditional links, it’s not necessarily important that you get your period on the full moon or the new moon – although it can be pretty exciting when it does happen!).

Stopping

From a young age, we are told to use sanitary products which could in fact be doing more harm than good. Many tampons and pads contain harmful, toxic chemicals and materials, and are thought to have damaging effects inside the body. Tampons are designed to block our natural flow, but whilst our bodies are releasing and detoxing, this isn’t the most ideal or naturally intended idea. 

How to stop it: 

+ Invest in a moon cup / menstrual cup. I could not get used to the idea of them at first, and initially made the change to organic tampons, but as i learnt more about them, the moon cup seemed the most suitable and sensible - not just for my body but also environmentally and economically. Thinx pants also seem fun but I’m yet to get my hands on a pair.

Surrendering
During your cycle, there is a lot going on internally and autonomically, and powering through daily life with low moods and low energy is more or less a disaster waiting to happen. Whether it’s before, during or after your cycle that you feel particularly fragile, sensitive, lethargic etc etc, take time to tune in, explore what’s going on within (hormone or cycle apps truly help not just during your cycle but throughout the rest of the month too) and surrender. Don’t resist what’s going on and don’t force yourself through anything. Go slow.

How to surrender:

+ Condense your schedule and accept that sometimes you just won’t feel up to doing things you usually would, or that you think you should. Once you’ve used a cycle tracker / app for a few months, keeping up to date with your cycle will be easy, and you can then get to know how and when to schedule things in, like time to be active, time to be social and time to do absolutely nothing. Scheduling in naps, slow days and self care rituals is just as important as scheduling in work and fitness.

+ Discover Moody.  Thank me later.

Soothing

How to soothe: 

+ If you’re someone who suffers from painful periods or endures extreme dizziness, fainting, nausea or other side effects, I can honestly say that switching from tampons to a moon cup reduces cramps and tensions. A friend of mine also uses the Livia - a tech toy which reduces pain.

+ And if you’re someone who suffers from severe mood swings, hormone imbalances and low energy, I’d suggest using adaptogens powders and tonic herbs (see a herbalist if you are not familiar with these) to balance hormones and enhance energy and positivity. I love maca, cacao, pine pollen, he shou wu, ashwaganda, mucuna puriens, ginseng, cordyceps and chaga (I also supplement with magnesium, 5htp and vitamin D if i’m feeling particularly low).